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December 07, 2006

He Will Only Do It Doggy Style -- Help?!

Blogmom Bou and I had the following coversation this morning on messenger:

Bou: Some sexpert for the elderly named Sue Johanson is showing up on my msn flicker.

Sissy: Actually...she's not for the elderly. A lot of young people call her, it's quite funny.

Bou: Wow. She's like that troll woman used to be...I can't remember her name....Dr. Ruth!

The conversation went on about how old Dr. Ruth is (she was born in 1928) and how nothing was ever off limits or "bad" to her. As we dug deeper, we found that Dr. Ruth has a website.

One of the questions:

My Boyfriend of 5 years, always wants to have sex doggie style. we did for about 5-6 months. I got tired of it. I want him to make love to me. Ill ask him why he won't and his answer is I don't know. Now we haven't had sex for about a month because I refuse to unless he makes love to me. It seems to me hed rather not have sex at all. Can you please help me? Its driving me nuts.

Dr. Ruth's Answer:

I cant tell you whats going through his mind, but I could take a guess. Perhaps hes gay, but cant admit it to anyone, and having sex this way allows him to fantasize that hes having sex with a man rather than with a woman. Thats not the only explanation. It could be that he failed, i.e. lost his erection, having sex in other positions and now hes afraid to try other positions again in case hed have another failure. Or maybe he has stronger orgasms in this position. Or maybe you have bad breath and he cant get up the courage to tell you. As you can see, my first guess isnt the only possibility, but its still my number one choice. Are there any other signs of this? Is there any x-rated material on your computer that is linked to male sites? Gay magazines hidden in his closet? Since youve invested five years together, you definitely need to get to the bottom of this. I would recommend that you see a sex therapist. If he goes along, great, if not, youll get some help anyway. Hes never going to not prefer this position, but perhaps with the right help, hed agree to make love to you the way you want to, and then perhaps finish off with sex in his favorite position. Or to some other compromise. But you do need to find out what his answer is, because I dont know is just his way of hiding the truth from you as Im certain he knows the reason.

She's ugly, she looks like his mother, he wants to watch Sports Center, he makes weird sex faces, his breath smells....

...the list could go on. Poor girl...

Posted by Sissy at December 7, 2006 03:32 PM | TrackBack

I love Sue Johansen. She kicks ass.

Not to mention that she pulls no punches.

Posted by: caltechgirl at December 7, 2006 04:38 PM

That whole thing was so damn funny. I was scared to death when we started IM'ing that Dr. Ruth was really 41 or so when I saw her in the mid 80s. That would have sucked.

Posted by: Bou at December 7, 2006 08:41 PM

I am soooo out of the loop. Guess I need to do some research and get my head out of the ground.

Posted by: vw bug at December 10, 2006 06:49 AM

Or maybe he just likes doggy-style because it's a dominating position.

Time to explore some S & M options, I say.

Posted by: Harvey at December 12, 2006 08:37 PM